This is from a different article from Psychology Today. The original I gave to someone.
"...Whether you call it projection, denial, or displacement, blame helps you preserve your sense of self-esteem... by avoiding awareness of your own flaws or failings.
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...blame is a way to try and hurt others.
...The attributions we make, whether to luck or ability, can be distorted by our tendency to make illogical judgments. And we are just as bad at making judgments involving the blameworthiness of actions in terms of intent vs. outcome.
...There's less effort involved in recognizing your contributions to a bad situation than accepting the fact that you are actually at fault, and changing so you don't do it again.
..."Everybody lies." It's pretty easy just to lie and blame someone else even though you know you're at fault."
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